Negative vs Positive Hyperbole
Hyperbole is something that can be used when communicating as a generic intensifier; it’s often temporal in nature (eg “always”, “never”). I’m coining Negative and Positive Hyperbole here to refer to two styles of using it. Both can be of good/ill intention. Perhaps a better name would be “indirect” vs “direct”?
I’ve noticed that healthy relationships see to use positive hyperbole more often than negative hyperbole when communicating.
Example of negative hyperbole:
Did you not do X becasue Y or because you never do Z?
Example of positive hyperbole:
I appreciate you for always doing X
Both of these can be negative, and both can be positive. The difference is how many ways the follow-up can be negative and how likely the message is to be received as intended (hopefully positively).
I think the reason healthy relationships pick Positive/Direct Hyperbole (if at all) is that it’s easier to understand and harder to misunderstand. Which leads to a principle of healthy relationships that one should avoid spending emotional energy on mixed messages.